Spiritual Tips to Move Forward Courageously During Fearful Times
Today, 6.3 million American
adults aged 18-54 have some type of specific fear. Although the most common fears tend to be public speaking,
death, spiders, darkness, heights, social situations, flying, open spaces, thunder and lightening, and confined
spaces—in that order, the current economy has brought a host of additional fears to the forefront of American's
minds. These include the loss of a job, a home and of retirement income or invested
money.
For this reason, it's more important than ever to learn how to move through fear. No
matter how much or how little fear you feel—or for what reason, that fear stops you from living your life fully and
creating the life you desire. Fear prevents you from achieving your highest potential and immobilizes you on the
path to your dreams.
My teachings on the subject of fear stem from the words of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov,
a rabbi who lived form 1772 to 1820 and who is credited with breathing new life into the Jewish movement known as
Chasidism. One of his well-known sayings has most commonly been translated from Hebrew to English this way: "A
person walks in life on a narrow bridge. The most important thing is not to be afraid."
I believe the narrow bridge represents life. Most of life is scary. Only we don't
always think about life in that way. We don't see ourselves poised on a narrow, rope bridge hanging over a deep
ravine. However, that's how we exist day to day never knowing from moment to moment what could happen to us,
whether we will live or die, whether the slats of the bridge will hold us when we take our next step. Most of the
time, we aren't fearful. We might, however, be afraid of a spider, or of interviewing for a new job, or of asking
someone out on a date, or of not having the money to pay our mortgage this month.
When it comes to living our lives, however, we have faith that the bridge will hold
our weight. And because we have faith, we don't focus upon thoughts that "make" us afraid. In fact, Rebbe Nachman's
words are more accurately translated as, "The most important thing is not to make ourselves afraid." What he is
telling us is that fear is all about our thoughts—where we focus them. If we think about the possibility of danger
or of negative outcomes or of unwanted futures we make ourselves afraid. If we focus on our faith, or on the fact
that we are okay—safe and sound—in this moment, we do not make ourselves afraid. Instead, we give ourselves courage
to take a step forward on the bridge called life.
I admit that I have always had fears. I get through them by taking one step at a
time along the narrow bridge and with a lot of faith to keep me balanced. I believe fear stops us from living our
lives fully. I think it becomes our jailor if we let it. And I don't want to be jailed. I want to move through life
freely and fully. I don't want to find that I haven't lived up to my full potential, because I was too afraid to
take steps towards my dreams and goals. I don't want to be less than I could be because fear stopped me in my
tracks.
I realized a long time ago that most things I think I am afraid of really aren't
worth worrying about. Once I have moved through my fears, I can laugh at how silly they were. I try to remember
that and how amazing life is—even the scary parts. Actually, they are kind of exhilarating, especially after you
move through them.
One last thing helps me move through fear, and I offer this as an additional tip to
others feeling fearful—especially given the current world economic situation. I try to always remember the miracle
of life. It's a miracle that we survive and exist on this bridge at all. It's a miracle that we walk on the bridge
and don't even realize that we are swinging precariously over a deep ravine. This isn't much different than us
standing on Planet Earth as it hurtles through space or than us being on the fifth floor of a building that
consists of particles made of nothing but space vibrating in space. Yet, we feel safe in both those situations.
That's a miracle. Every moment, every hour, every day that we are alive represents a
miracle.
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